Anyone out there quit drinking and find out you can't get along with your spouse?

I was a light beer drinker and hard party guy that eventually drank to have fun as well as drink to fix my problems (temporarily). Well my wife and I have fought most of our marriage (19 years) but now that I don't drink at all I realize that not being able to forget my problems really forces me to face them. I told my wife that the drinking wasn't the issue and she insisted it was, so i quit. Well we still fight so I told her as I told her before, if I talked to her the way she talks to me she would have a fit and that was the real problem. Well I told her that if she didn't feel that it was important to treat me like she would want to be treated then I didn't want to be around her. This led to a nasty fight where she explained all of the reasons why she blows up the way she does and at the end she said she thinks we should divorce. This is the first time in all of the years of fighting I have thought what a relief it would be to not deal with her tension every day. For some reason I couldn't do that when I drank. My guess is that without any options to escape the problem of my wife, it leaves me no option but to really fix the problem. Which is sort of liberating. Anybody else experience this?